let's talk about sex baby

read that article in the newspaper about the girls who are having sex with men for money so that they can get stuff they want. honey, there's this thing called 'independent woman'. or are u not familiar with that destiny's child song?

ok ok so these are teenagers who do not have earning power. the papers put some of the blame on the parents. that is true. you need a good foundation and it all begins at home. then again the parents could be all righteous and moralistic and the kids could still turn out wrong. you also have to consider western influences, peer pressure, the relaxation of morals in general... granted, these are kids and they'll probably regret their actions later in life but why did they go down that path in the first place? what drove them to do that? i say, it's the kids themselves too. in the wise words of dr. seuss 'you have brains in your head and feet in your shoes, you can steer yourself in any direction you choose'.

the papers said that they usually met these men online. tell me, how many internet cafes are there in sg? not many right. ok, i also just found out from my lil bro that most of his friends don't have internet at home. yes, in today's world there are still people out there with no computers or our taken-for-granted broadband. so can i safely assume that these girls who have internet access and therefore access to the guys are pretty ok when it comes to income? right. i know plenty of people who have had internet for ages and they have never been compelled to sell themselves. there are also other ways of making moolah of course, such as, gee, i dunno, WORKING.

let's give them the benefit of the doubt. perhaps they're from low income families and can't afford to get the stuff that they want. perhaps they are from middle income families but they don't get enough. perhaps they're trying to keep up with their friends. perhaps perhaps perhaps. whatever it is, i believe that there is no excuse for prostituting yourself. absolutely no excuse. it's an easy way out. in fact, i believe that there is no excuse for premaritial sex either. cos ladies, if he really loves you then he'll be able to keep it in his pants until after the rock is on your finger and his signature is on the dotted line.

i sincerely don't understand why so many people are sleeping around when clearly there are some major consequences. maybe that's why i wanna be a counsellor. to understand these people better and perhaps let them see that sex is not the only way you can show someone you love them. and how not to give in to pressure. be strong!

a friend of mine once said that she 'did it for love' and that i would not understand cos obviously i've never been in love. i think that's utter bullshit of course. i believe that is just an excuse. i believe that you probably can't (shouldn't?) love anyone more than you love god. and god says no premaritial sex. so there.

another friend of mine says he does it cos he can, it's fun and it's instant gratification. he also says that he feels bad in the spiritual sense but as a human, it's damn good. i say he's a recalcitrant womanising bastard.

so perhaps it just boils down to the fact that it feels good? hmm.
it takes two to tango but it takes only one to say no. this transcends all religions and is ultimately a personal choice. so i guess there's only so much you can say or do.